Time out! Take a long, deep breath. Relax! The mirror won’t crack on the reflection of a Bride, Groom, or other party planner if something goes wrong. No one will be doomed to seven years of bad luck! The sun will still rise the next morning! And most importantly, you will still be married to the mate of your dreams.
Listed below are just a few of the most important general suggestions based on this pro’s 15 year+ experience and 500+ weddings.
1. Prioritize Fun Over Perfection
Remember Murphy’s Law. You should plan that something unexpected will happen!
Your wedding ceremony might be delayed, the meal might not be available exactly on time, someone might be offended by a song that the DJ or band plays, some drunk uncle may try to cut the buffet line, etc.
If you prioritize fun over everything needing to be perfect, none of these inconveniences will really matter! This means less stress and more happy memories at your special event!
2. Be Flexible
Substitute the word “flexible” for the word “fun” in the above paragraph.
3. Choose Wedding and Party Professionals
Asking Aunt LeeAnn or Uncle Louis to photograph, videotape, bring food, or provide music entertainment at a wedding reception or party might save money in the short run… but remember the old rule of thumb, you get what you pay for (at least most of the time).
By hiring wedding and party professionals, there is more assurance that everything will be done correctly. By giving these same professionals the freedom to do what they are paid to do, they will instinctively know how to react under both normal and unusual circumstances.
4. Work Only With Written Contracts and Agreements
Written contracts are the best way to protect your rights as a wedding consumer. An oral agreement is only worth the paper it is written on! What if a catering director promises one thing, and then quits to work at another location down the street? How will his/her replacement learn of the details that were carefully planned if there are no written agreements? Be consumer savvy. Get all agreements in writing on a contract, piece of paper, or fax, with an original signature
5. Fun with Disposable Cameras
More and more newlyweds and other party planners are having one disposable camera available on each dinner table. Not only do these cameras provide guests with something extra to do, they can capture the shots that photographers simply may not have time to get! Advise guests before your event to use the cameras to take candid pictures of informal and humorous themes. Leave the serious and formal portraits to the professional photographers! Also, have a collection basket on the gift or guest book table for people to return the cameras after all the exposures have been taken.
6. Stay In Touch With Your Wedding/Party Vendors
For your own peace of mind, it is usually a good idea for you to contact your wedding/party vendors on a monthly basis prior to your event. Keep a running list of things to discuss during these communications.
7. Don’t Micro-Manage Everything!
Listen to the suggestions from your wedding professionals (caterer, photographer, videographer, mobile DJ). These experts can offer solid advice based on many years of experience at wedding ceremonies and receptions.
They have first hand knowledge! They can also probably recommend other vendors to Brides and Grooms based on their professional experiences with these people
8. Stay calm
It should surprise no one that on Wedding Day, many newlyweds are very nervous. The following suggestions are offered as a possible remedy:
- Simplify your Wedding Day plans. The more details and minute that you include…the better the chance that something will go wrong! Don’t worry about the small stuff!
- Leave the important details to your Wedding Day professionals (officiant, photographer, caterer, disc jockey, etc.) Arrange for a calm individual to handle last minute details
- Enjoy a bubble bath/massage the day before your Wedding
- Take an entire day off from work and wedding planning during the week preceding your Wedding Plan to smile, laugh, and enjoy your Wedding Day
- Take as many pictures as possible prior to the Wedding Ceremony to allow more free/fun time afterwards Champagne/alcohol/herbal tea/etc.